An important point that I always include when I teach emotion development to undergrads is that it’s a learned skill. Parents and caregivers teach children about emotion through how they help their infants and toddlers through emotional experience, through their language usage patterns around emotion and more. Infants with reactive temperaments (big feelings) are harder to soothe and thus ask more of their parents. The goodness of fit principle also tells us that temperament has biological origins… so when parents have big feelings too, it’s an even greater challenge. This likely explains a lot of that differing variance in why some folks with adhd have more practiced emotional regulation skills: it depends on their family history at multiple levels.
An important point that I always include when I teach emotion development to undergrads is that it’s a learned skill. Parents and caregivers teach children about emotion through how they help their infants and toddlers through emotional experience, through their language usage patterns around emotion and more. Infants with reactive temperaments (big feelings) are harder to soothe and thus ask more of their parents. The goodness of fit principle also tells us that temperament has biological origins… so when parents have big feelings too, it’s an even greater challenge. This likely explains a lot of that differing variance in why some folks with adhd have more practiced emotional regulation skills: it depends on their family history at multiple levels.
Isn't this Interoception and Alexithymia? Understanding your own internal body signals and emotions.